My page finally reached 800 likes. Not that it matters much because in reality... who cares right?
"It's just Facebook".
Besides i've never really been one to focus on or push for likes. I think once when I started my facebook page i've done a contest to get shares and likes but other than that I try to avoid that mindset like the plague.
In today's society there seems to be so much pressure regarding your online presence, your website and Facebook. How many likes, how many followers and how many views seem to be the main focus for a lot of people. Often we base our decisions and judge business credibility on how many likes they have. Then we think to ourselves "Oh well since they have thousands of likes they must be legit."
Whether this is something you've thought about or if you've never paid much attention to it this is a huge mind game for me and i'd imagine i'm not alone. I feel crazy to SOMETIMES struggle with the thought how many Facebook "likes" does my page have but I honestly try to keep it real with myself.
I started off this post mentioning that my page reached 800 likes on my page and today I randomly decided to check the stats of the page. I don't check them much at all and honestly half the time I forget the stats are even there. So this morning I made my coffee and sat down at the computer to check in and then I saw it... the dreaded light pink/red down arrow. Do you know what this means? Unlikes. And not just one unlike as if a person deleted their page but SIX.
At first I was like what.... the... heck. I mean people had to actively search out my page and unlike me. Yall let me tell you this is a hard thing to struggle with but totally worth writing about because I KNOW i'm not the only one and I KNOW this isn't JUST about Facebook.
Anyway, Facebook will analyze what caused my likes or unlikes. For example, if I posted something or shared something that caused people to go to the effort to unlike my page(or like my page). Lets face it liking things is easy on Facebook but to go to the effort to unlike something is work. It's hard not to take that stuff personal but I have to be realistic about these kinds of things and keep a healthy relationship with social media or else things can get unhealthy fast.
Isn't this just how our relationships become with people? We get caught up in this hype of what we wear and how we appear to be instead of how we are. Do we appear to have a lot of likes(friends) or do we actually have a lot of likes/friends. Do we care more about people thinking we have it all together than if we actually have it all together? Besides who has it ALL together anyway? No one and I mean NO ONE has it all together.
We get so focused on status, appearance and comparing that our true self gets pushed down and down and down and covered and covered and covered and before we know it we are LOST. And you wake up one day saying HOW DID I GET HERE.
Let me shake things up for you here and consider this is your wake up call.
It is a dangerous place to give people the power to feed you because you're also allowing them the power to starve you.
So remember to be careful where you go to quench your thirst. I'm thirsty, you're thirsty... we are ALL thirsty people. But water from a broken well (ie: likes on a page, compliments, comments, social status, nice clothes) will most definitely make you thirst again. And if you're constantly looking for validation from people you will always be thirsty because the only ONE that will truly quench your thirst will NEVER leave you lonely, hungry or thirsty.